I've been trying to move past anger, thinking and thinking
and trying to come at this whole situation of the massacre at Mother Emanuel
AME Church in Charleston from a place of love and understanding and a sense of
optimism I've had to struggle mightily to maintain. This what I've come up
with.
I’d like to focus on the nine people whose lives were cut
short in Mother Emanuel AME Church on June 17th. I’ve linked to an
article about them here.
I didn’t know any of these people personally. I live half a
continent away from them. But I feel as if I do know them when I read about
them—their hard work, their devotion to family, their community leadership, and
especially their devout Christianity—because they sound just like my neighbors
and friends. I’ve owned a a home and lived in a predominantly African American
neighborhood in one of America’s most racially segregated cities for over 40
years (and yes, it was already almost entirely black when I moved in). These
are the African American people I know, the ones I never see in books or on
television or in the movies, the ones who sometimes work several jobs so they
can send their kids to a good private school since our urban public schools
have become a disaster, the ones who are teachers and librarians and nurses and
bankers and managers and supervisors, the ones who go to work during the week
and to church on Sunday (and often Wednesday night prayer group or university
night classes) without fail, day after day, week after week.
I have seen the long double rows of black men standing up
before a packed congregation to pledge themselves to mentor and help all the
young boys of the area, not just their own. These are the men who coached my
kids’ Little League teams and helped dig out our car when it slid into a
snow-filled ditch. These are the men I pass mowing their lawns and trimming
their bushes and, sometimes, playing their musical instruments on their lawns,
always giving me a polite, friendly greeting and wave. These are the men I never
see on the media with its focus on the idea of the African American man as scary,
violent criminal.
These are the women I’ve had coffee with and traded recipes
with and joked with about our men and worried with about our kids. These are
the women who bring casseroles and pies when someone’s sick or someone’s died.
These are the women who work in the church food pantry, serving white and black
families alike. These are the women who are professionals out in a world that
constantly disrespects them as African Americans and disrespects them as women, and these
women still carry themselves with dignity and pride through all of it.
I’ve been to AME churches and other black churches quite a
bit in my life, and I’ve always been made welcome in the warmest, most loving,
and truly Christian way. My heart breaks every time I read that the murderer
said he almost couldn’t go through with it because the people he killed were so
nice to him. I know those people. I’ve lived with those people for over 40
years.
And what I want to say is not to the white supremacists and
vicious racists out there—because they’re mostly not going to change—but to the
news media and the writers and filmmakers and television show producers and
directors. Why aren’t you showing us these people? Why can’t I ever see
wonderful people like these nine beautiful human beings and my neighbors in any
of your productions? Why do you persist
in showing only a negative minority of the African American population over and
over, so that all the white people who live in all-white suburbs and work in
all-white workplaces think your stereotypes are what African American people
are and all they are?
And to my white friends I say, don’t let them do this any
longer. Demand to see the reality of African American life, which is full of
humor and music and parties and laughter and love, as well as all the other
stuff of all lives. They do this to Natives. They do this to Latinos. They do
this to everyone “different.” So that those white people (an unfortunately
ever-larger number) who live carefully segregated, all-white lives only know
these negative stereotypes about people from other cultures than their own.
Don’t let them do this any longer. More than anything else, more even than the
disgusting hate speech, this eternal lopsided presentation is what feeds the
ugly racism that underlies America. Demand that it stop.
REPLIES TO COMMENTS (because Blogger won't let me comment on my own blog):
Reine, I am not surprised--that a black church accepted you or that you did so well for them. I've complained for a long time to family and friends about the representation of African American people, Native people, Latino people, etc., in books and movies and on television. So many white people now live such racially isolated lives that all they ever know about any other culture is what they read or see in the media. And they are fed a non-stop stream of racist, threatening bugaboos. They never see real people like the ones in your church or my neighborhood.
Tom, you are absolutely right. Stories matter, and they may actually be the only thing that matters. I think one of the reasons that people refuse to believe statistics and facts about things is that they've been told powerful stories that are false or misleading, and they won't believe what contradicts that. We who write or create have a choice always whether we'll be lazy and fan the hate or go for a truer picture.
Thank you for reading, Jan.
Lil, I think it's very tough for people who grew up isolated in all-white areas and who are now faced with working with/for and living near people very different from themselves. For so long, the narrative in this country--in books, magazines, film, theater, television, and the news (paper and electronic)--has been white-centered with people of different ethnicities used only as "exotic color" in bit portrayals of criminals and always-sexually-available women. The news reporting in this country goes out of its way to underline and emphasize every criminal of color while ignoring most of the white ones. In real life, whites are still the largest number of convicted criminals, but one would never know that from the news coverage. It's no wonder these people are frightened--and fear so often turns to hate, especially with the powerful voices throwing gasoline on that fire (as Tom said above).
REPLIES TO COMMENTS (because Blogger won't let me comment on my own blog):
Reine, I am not surprised--that a black church accepted you or that you did so well for them. I've complained for a long time to family and friends about the representation of African American people, Native people, Latino people, etc., in books and movies and on television. So many white people now live such racially isolated lives that all they ever know about any other culture is what they read or see in the media. And they are fed a non-stop stream of racist, threatening bugaboos. They never see real people like the ones in your church or my neighborhood.
Tom, you are absolutely right. Stories matter, and they may actually be the only thing that matters. I think one of the reasons that people refuse to believe statistics and facts about things is that they've been told powerful stories that are false or misleading, and they won't believe what contradicts that. We who write or create have a choice always whether we'll be lazy and fan the hate or go for a truer picture.
Thank you for reading, Jan.
Lil, I think it's very tough for people who grew up isolated in all-white areas and who are now faced with working with/for and living near people very different from themselves. For so long, the narrative in this country--in books, magazines, film, theater, television, and the news (paper and electronic)--has been white-centered with people of different ethnicities used only as "exotic color" in bit portrayals of criminals and always-sexually-available women. The news reporting in this country goes out of its way to underline and emphasize every criminal of color while ignoring most of the white ones. In real life, whites are still the largest number of convicted criminals, but one would never know that from the news coverage. It's no wonder these people are frightened--and fear so often turns to hate, especially with the powerful voices throwing gasoline on that fire (as Tom said above).
Very well done article. Thank you for linking to it, Linda.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was a divinity student I needed a two-year field placement doing ministry in partial fulfillment of the master of divinity degree. I went to interview after interview, and no church would have me, not even the "shoe-in" I'd been promised my first year. Despite my education, experience and impressive recommendations, when the committees met me, apparently they didn't like what they saw.
I gave up on my original goal and, because I already had an MS in couples, family, and child counseling, I started to apply for alternative field experiences in hospitals and psychiatric facilities.
One day I had a call to see a denominational advisor in the chaplain's office. He was not from my denomination, but he asked me if I would be interested in being the student minister in a black church in Boston. He was the pastor, and the church could use a student. He would propose it to the board of deacons, and if they were interested I would be offered an interview.
The deacons approved, and I started my work at the church. After a few weeks with the church, the minister and his family disappeared. We learned months later they were okay but had an undisclosed crisis and were now living elsewhere. The church kept me on as student minister in their church without a minister for two years.
I was really not very good at church ministry, but this black congregation nurtured me, an outsider, and encouraged me like none other, and I graduated. I think about them all the time... almost non-stop this week.
Stories matter. I say this all the time- the fear and hate we see as "normal" came from narratives on the news and in TV, movies, and books we grew up on. We're in charge of what we decide to write. When the first image we come up with for a villain is always inspired by these old hate-narratives, we are consciously choosing to pour more gasoline on the fire and keep racial hatred alive.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Linda. Powerful words. . . .
ReplyDeleteMore to think about in this very scary world. But it is very true. I live in a town that is really mixed-it's California after all-and there is still distrust and fear of the "neighborhood." The so called man who lives next to me once said he wishes the insert "N-word" here would go back to where they came. Of course, he could have been aiming that to me. He does stuff like that, and I am Jewish. I am afraid of people like who are biased and ignorant like that. Also This town has a very large hispanic population. Lots of tension there.
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